I’ve never been one to care what others think of me. I have to learn to care a little bit at work once a year for self reviews though.
Otherwise to me the only opinions that matter are my son’s and wife’s.
This creates interesting situations for me. Back in college my oldest sister invited me grocery shopping. She wanted to help me out with food and have some sibling bonding time.
A little back story, I am the baby of three kids. My sisters are 6 and 8 years older than me (Yes, I was very much an “oops”). This means my sisters are in a different stage in life than I am at any given time. While I was in college, my oldest sister was married and had a kid.
While we were walking through the grocery store I was picking up frozen pizza, Mac and cheese, and Pepsi… like one does. She was picking up foreign objects like fruits, vegetables, and spices.
As we were walking around I started to realize people kept looking at us. Being a college student my first reaction was, “did I put on a clean shirt today?” …not the problem.
These people assumed that I was in a relationship with an older woman and had a baby…
To me that was funny but mainly I couldn’t help but think that it was none of their business.
Fast forward to my first job where I had to dress up a little. Business casual isn’t a comfortable dress code for me but I can’t deny that I look sharp in it. When I would go to the grocery store (or any where for that matter) after work people would be helpful, friendly, and kind.
Sometimes I would have a lot of errands to run before meeting friends so I would pop home and change before going shopping. Dressed in a graphic T and jeans I was treated like crap. People were annoyed and would make sure I wasn’t stealing.
A lot of bloggers will tell you to practice stealth wealth. The art of not keeping up with the Joneses and trying to impress others with expensive stuff. That is a very important mindset to have to keep yourself from buying crap to impress people you don’t like.
That only gets you so far because people will judge you regardless.
I want you to practice the art of not giving a crap.
People are going to make an assumption about you regardless of what you do.
If you have expensive stuff people will judge you for the purchase. Whether they think you are rich or wasting money.
Stop caring about what others think about you but more importantly, stop being rude to those that aren’t dressed up because the one in the suit may be broke and the one in jeans could be a millionaire.
Have you noticed people judging you? How is your stealth wealth going? Have you learned to stop caring what people think?