Managing a Third-Life Crisis

Managing a Third-Life Crisis

A lot of this is just thinking out loud….or in text…would love for you to still give it a read and tell me if you have had the same experiences.


I think I’ve gotten to the point where I would be having a third-life crisis if I hadn’t gotten my financial act together.

Time seems to slip away. Wasn’t I just the little boy dragging around his Winnie the Pooh? Now it’s Mini Donut squeezing the silly old bear as he snuggles into bed. I was cleaning out my dresser recently and MD came in just as I was pulling out my old Winnie. He got more excited about having a Winnie the Pooh after knowing that’s what his dad had when he was a kid.

Seeing the new Winnie the Pooh trailer made me realize that my Winnie would look at me the same way.

In the trailer, Christopher Robin says, “I’ve cracked” to which Pooh responds, “I don’t see any cracks. A few wrinkles maybe.”

Those words floated in my head for a few days until I was washing my hands in the bathroom staring in the mirror…

What would my Winnie say to me?

“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there someday.”

I think I may be a bit too young for those midlife crisis purchases. A motorcycle, while fun, is a tad dangerous for my stage of life. I have the life insurance but I’d like to be around for my kids (minor details I know). Motorcycles, in my opinion, are quite safe. It’s only when there are cars on the road or wild animals in the world when they become less safe.

I could go out and buy an expensive car. Not sure what good that would do me. I don’t particularly like driving in the Twin Cities and the only car I would buy is a Tesla Model 3. (We all know how that played out.) Maybe a motorcycle or car would make more sense for my midlife crisis. When we are financially independent and could afford such a stupid action. Winnie is right, no sense of rushing. We will get these items later in life when it makes more sense.

“Sometimes, said Pooh, the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.”

Perhaps it’s just about being stable. I have an awesome loving wife and two amazing kids. Three things that I have always wanted. Every day my kids do something that just blows my mind in some way. Watching them grow up is going to be my single greatest adventure.

Definitely, agree with you Pooh Bear. This part of my life is the best and I wouldn’t want it to change at all, so what’s my problem?

“Don’t underestimate the value of doing nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”

…I’m not sure what you are getting at Winnie…

Is it my job? I don’t think so. Every year I’ve worked I’ve been able to get onto cooler and more interesting projects. In the last 2 years at my current job, I’ve worked on 3 major platforms for the company I work for.

Does stability bread complacency?

Ms. Blue Ribbon must be feeling the same way. We both had that notion of moving to a new house. I wonder if this is just something everyone goes through around this age. We aren’t used to things being consistent and calm. …Not calm…we have two kids. Our days are never calm. Our overall lives are calm.

Life is in constant change from birth to 18. Growing, learning, moving from one grade to another and at a minimum of 3 different schools. After 18 years old you either go to tech school, college or start a full-time job.

Change doesn’t stop there.

Perhaps you start dating, get married, move in together. If you are like us you have a couple of kids. Then what?

All of those 25-30 years of incessant change and then calm. It’s a shock to the system. We aren’t used to just being able to live our lives. We can finally just enjoy what’s going on around us and we should. Take that time to value what our lives have to offer not only to ourselves but also those around us.

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”

Thanks Pooh.

winnie and christopher robin


Like anything I write here, it is me being a little cathartic but also me hoping that somehow I help someone else going through the same thing.

Seems like even Macklemore has been reflecting on this:
?Maybe I’ve been missing what it’s about
Been scared of the future, thinking about the past
While missing out on now
We’ve come so far, I guess I’m proud
And I ain’t worried about the wrinkles around my smile
I’ve got some scars, I’ve been around
I’ve felt some pain, I’ve seen some things, but I’m here now?

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